Quote of The Week

“Everyone should smile. Life really isn’t that serious. We make it hard. The sun rises. The sun sets. We just tend to complicate the process.”

—	x (via freshurr)

Ask yourself

what does it mean?

It means do you need someone for the sake of not feeling alone and or sad or do you want me because you actually love me, not solely on comfort and fear but you actually want me.

Via Tumblr

Emotional Abuse

Credits to the rightful owner of the image above

by thorin-and-twerkteam.tumblr.com

Emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.

:)

Love is a strange thing but it's also another reason of how the world works sometimes. When you love something or someone, it's your motivation.

Listening...

It's always good to just listen rather than to be the one always speaking. Be someone's listener because sometimes that is all they need. They need someone who will listen, not advise. They get comfort knowing someone out there is there for them and to listen to them so they won't feel so left out.

Basically, I've known the feeling of not being able to speak about my problems to some people who are close to me because they give out too much negative energy. It puts a lot of people off, especially when a person is hoping you will be able to listen but then get disappointed of your uninterested looks. Personally I would feel rather honoured if someone trusted me to listen to their problems, I would be honoured to be their listener. Whether that person has hurt you or not, it shouldn't matter because they came to you, for help.

Why turn down someone who is seeking help or seeking a little bit of comfort. It shouldn't  be hard to try and open up to listen to a few people. It's not that they are asking for advice. They need support. It's always important to be that kind of person or at least try to be.

Be aware that the person has guven you their trust, don't break it.

Photos from my Instagram

Muehehe I haven't died yet!

Helping a Smoker Quit: Do’s and Don’ts

General hints for friends and family

Do respect that the quitter is in charge. This is their lifestyle change and their challenge, not yours.

Do ask the person whether they want you to ask regularly how they’re doing. Ask how they’re feeling – not just whether they’ve stayed quit.

Do let the person know that it’s OK to talk to you whenever they need to hearencouraging words.

Do help the quitter get what they need, such as hard candy to suck on, straws to chew on, and fresh veggies cut up and kept in the refrigerator.

Do spend time doing things with the quitter to keep their mind off smoking – go to the movies, take a walk to get past a craving (what many call a “nicotine fit”), or take a bike ride together.

Do try to see it from the smoker’s point of view – a smoker’s habit may feel like an old friend that’s always been there when times were tough. It’s hard to give that up.

Do make your home smoke free, meaning that no one can smoke in any part of the house.

Do remove all lighters and ash trays from your home. Remove anything that reminds them of smoking

Do wash clothes that smell like smoke. Clean carpets and drapes. Use air fresheners to help get rid of the tobacco smells – and don’t forget the car, too.

Do help the quitter with a few chores, some child care, cooking – whatever will help lighten the stress of quitting.

Do celebrate along the way. Quitting smoking is a BIG DEAL!

Don’t doubt the smoker’s ability to quit. Your faith in them reminds them they can do it.

Don’t judge, nag, preach, tease, or scold. This may make the smoker feel worse about him or herself. You don’t want your loved one to turn to a cigarette to soothe hurt feelings.

Don’t take the quitter’s grumpiness personally during their nicotine withdrawal. Tell them that you understand the symptoms are real and remind them that they won’t last forever. The symptoms usually get better in about 2 weeks.

Don’t offer advice. Just ask how you can help with the plan or program they are using.

If your ex-smoker “slips”

Don’t assume that they will start back smoking like before. A “slip” (taking a puff or smoking a cigarette or 2) is pretty common when a person is quitting.

Do remind the quitter how long they went without a cigarette before the slip.

Do help the quitter remember all the reasons they wanted to quit, and help them forget about the slip as soon as possible.

Do continue to offer support and encouragement. Remind them they’re still a “quitter” – NOT a smoker.

Don’t scold, tease, nag, blame, or make the quitter feel guilty. Be sure the quitter knows that you care about them whether or not they smoke.

If your quitter relapses

Research shows that most people try to quit smoking several times before they succeed. (It’s called a relapse when smokers go back to smoking like they were before they tried to quit.) If a relapse happens, think of it as practice for the next time. Don’t give up your efforts to encourage and support your loved one. If the person you care about fails to quit or starts smoking again:

Do praise them for trying to quit, and for whatever length of time (days, weeks, or months) of not smoking.

Do remind your loved one that they didn’t fail – they are learning how to quit – and you’re going to be there for them the next time and as many times as it takes.

Do encourage them to try again. Don’t say, “If you try again...” Say, “When you try again...” Studies show that most people who don’t succeed in quitting are ready to try again in the near future.

Do encourage them to learn from the attempt. Things a person learns from a failed attempt to quit may help them quit for good next time. It takes time and skills to learn to be a non-smoker.

Do say, “It’s normal to not succeed the first few times you try to quit. Most people understand this, and know that they have to try to quit again. You didn’t smoke for (length of time) this time. Now you know you can do that much. You can get even further next time.”

If you are a smoker

Do smoke outside and always away from the quitter.

Do keep your cigarettes, lighters, and matches out of sight. They might be triggers for your loved one to smoke.

Don’t ever offer the quitter a smoke or any other form of tobacco, even as a joke!

Do join your loved one in their effort to quit. It’s better for your health and might be easier to do with someone else who is trying to quit, too.

Photography of Two Kitties

 So the little kitten below was taken quite a while back and the fluffy cat is my current cat today.

Bennett

 

 Mitch

The Comfort Spot

Hello Everybody!

Again, I apologise for not updating my blog because I've been busy and somewhat lazy.

Well not to worry now because here I am updating my blog.

Let me ask you guys and girls out there,

Have you heard of the Comfort Spot?

Well it is still under The Quiet Place project only that the comfort spot is where you can seek for other people's comfort.

Make sort of a message and hope to get a response from other people on the comfort spot.

It's a place to seek some simple help and comfort. 

Not hated and not judged.

 I go on there most of the time through my phone or even my desktop to try and help those in need of a little comfort.

If you need the comfort or you feel you would like to contribute the help

just click the link I provided below. :)

Also, you are able to download the app on PlayStore.

So click the link below and it will lead you right there.

 

The Comfort Spot

Updates

Good Evening Everyone!
I apologise for not updating my blog. Haven't been up to it lately.
There have been a number of sad things that have been happening here.

I'm sure you know about Malaysia Airlines' missing flight MH370. It's sad news knowing there were many passengers on that airplane. I don't have much to say about this but I can say is that All of us should keep on praying and hoping.
Pray for MH370.

Besides that, Malaysia has been getting hazy lately. It was so bad during the day but it has lessen. Also, we've been having a water shortage since it hasn't been raining for a while now.

Ummmm....I dont have much to say. My mind is blocked......